| Sunday, July 8, 2007 |
| He hits you because he loves you? |
Face the Issue's website asks the questions we all are scared of asking ourselves. Listen to Halley Berry's, herself a survival of abusive relationship, short but powerful narration on violent relationships.
The reasons why people don't realize that they are in abusive relation is complex. What I learnt and got stuck with me is that the abuser is "launching a campaign" against the abused. Often, the abuse begins subtly - ignoring, scolding, insulting, verbally abusing, controlling, jealousy.... All red flags of an abusive relationship.
Here are the questions that Face the Issue help us ask.
What are the symptoms of abuse?
Does your mom, dad, sibling, girlfriend or boyfriend:
• Seem like two different people, constantly switching between two personalities?
• Act extremely jealous of others who pay attention to you, or use jealousy to justify his/her actions?
• Make fun of you, put you down, or embarrass you in front of other people?
• Control your friends and/or your behavior emotionally or sexually?
• Have a history of bad relationships or past violence, always blame his/her problems on other people, or blame you for "making" him/her treat you badly? • Push, slap, bite,kick or choke you?
• Try to get you drunk, high or messed up or try to get you alone when you don’t want to be?
• Try to control you — by being bossy, not taking your opinion seriously, making all of the decisions about who you see, what you wear, what you do, etc. ?
• Threaten to kill you or commit suicide?
• Talk negatively about people in sexual ways or talk about sex like it’s a game or a contest?
• Stop you from seeing or talking to friends, family or limits your outside involvement?
You know you are in a abusive relationship if you answer yes to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.
Do you know anyone who might be in an abusive relationship? Do you know someone who should learn about these "red flags"? E-mail this article to them. You never know, you may save a life. |
posted by Fikirte @ 7:11 AM
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